MARRIAGE | CHRISTIAN LIVING

Marriage is one of God’s greatest gifts—a sacred bond designed to reflect His love. But let’s be honest: it’s not always easy. Thriving in marriage requires intentionality, grace, and a commitment to growing together. If you want a marriage that not only survives but flourishes, here are four key principles to focus on.

1. Each Person Living in Their God-Given Identity

A thriving marriage starts with two individuals who know who they are in Christ. When both spouses walk confidently in their God-given identity, they bring their best selves to the relationship. Instead of looking to each other for fulfillment, they are filled by God first—allowing them to love from a place of abundance rather than lack.

Ask yourself:

1. Am I seeking my worth from my spouse or from God?
2. How can I know my identity in Christ? Get my Hearing from God guide to learn about Identity Prayer!

A strong marriage is built on two whole people who encourage and uplift each other, not two halves trying to complete one another.

2. You Intentionally Seek to Add Rather Than Take

A thriving marriage isn’t about keeping score; it’s about serving each other with love. When both spouses focus on giving—offering encouragement, support, and kindness—marriage becomes a place of joy and security.

This doesn’t mean neglecting your own needs, but it does mean shifting your mindset. Instead of asking, “What can I get from my spouse?” ask, “What can I give today?” This simple shift fosters an atmosphere of love and generosity that strengthens your bond.

3. You Never Feel Stuck for Long

Every marriage faces challenges. But thriving couples don’t stay stuck in frustration, disappointment, or conflict. They recognize that difficulties are opportunities for growth, not signs of failure.

If you feel stuck in your marriage:

1. Pray and ask God for wisdom.
   
2. Seek wise counsel from trusted mentors or Christian marriage resources.
   
3. Have honest conversations with your spouse about what’s needed to move forward.
   

The enemy wants you to believe your situation is hopeless—but God is always at work. No matter what you’re facing, there is a way through with Him.

4. Communication That Creates Connection

Communication isn’t just about talking—it’s about understanding, listening, and connecting. Thriving couples know that words can either build intimacy or create distance.

Healthy communication includes:

• Listening to understand, not just to respond.
  
• Being honest about needs and feelings.
  
• Creating a safe space where both partners feel heard and valued.

If communication has been a struggle in your marriage, commit to making small, intentional changes. Set aside time to talk, pray together, and practice active listening.

Summary

A thriving marriage doesn’t happen by accident—it’s built through daily choices to love, grow, and pursue each other with Christ at the center. By living in your God-given identity, choosing to add rather than take, refusing to stay stuck, and prioritizing communication, your marriage can flourish like never before.

Which of these areas do you feel strongest in? Which one do you want to grow in? Let’s start the conversation in the comments!