August 23, 2019
Have you changed your mind multiple times about small details that don’t really matter? Have you struggled making wedding decisions that ONLY involve how your guests will feel? (I.e. venue, decor, food, etc.)
You are struggle from a big fat dose of people pleasing.
Yes, your guests should have a great time. Yes, you want to be considerate & generous. But omg, this is your wedding day! No, that doesn’t entitle you to become selfish, but you are not a Bridezilla for making a decision based on what you prefer over what some random judgy guest in the back of your mind would prefer.
I’ve watched countless brides stress over their day in ways they cannot control – are people too hot? Too cold? Do they like the food? Can they find their seats easy enough? Is the music chill enough for the older guests? Is it hype enough for the younger guest? AHHHH. STOP
As someone watching from the outside, here’s my charge to engaged couples: plan your wedding how you want & stop trying to make it perfect for guests who are going to complain or gossip about something (anything! Everything!) no matter what you do.
& to anyone who is a guest of a wedding ever, be kind. Who cares if you’ve been to a nicer wedding where you had a better time, this isn’t about you.
If you can’t enjoy the day regardless of the imperfections, then you’re there for the wrong reasons. As a guest, your job is to love & support the couple. It isn’t about your meal, your cute photo saying “we’re next”, or the temperature being exactly how you like it.
It’s about them. It’s about their day!
Couples, this is about you. Not you individually, but you as a couple. If you start your marriage worried about everyone else, it’ll continue that way with every decision you make.
Now is the time to cut ties with people pleasing & trust your guests to be there for you not what you can offer them or impress them with.